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Sunday, July 29, 2012

American Women Really Don’t Like Filipinas

By Steve Eyes

Any man who has dated Asian ladies who live in the United States, has witness the wrath, jealously and prejudice of American women towards Asian ladies. I know I have, as have many of my friends. The stereotypical has some merit: American women can’t compete against the Asians’ sexuality, American women feel threaten and some American women simply think Asians are stealing their men. These all bear some truth.

My experience is first hand. I dated many Asian ladies and have heard the comments. If we frequent a typical American club, I have had my dates threaten by American women in the restroom. In time, Asian clubs sprung up in the United States. At an Asian club, American women are welcome. I have never seen an American lady being threaten by Asians in a typical Asian club. It just isn’t their nature. The crowd in these clubs are usually Asian ladies and American men.

There are many Asian ladies in the U.S., especially from the Philippines. A lot of these ladies arrived via meeting an American G.I. I really don’t know the percentage, but there is no doubt that most Filipina ladies have a military connection in some way. They met in the Philippines, got married, and came to the United States with their military husband. Consequently, you’ll meet Asian ladies in clubs who are married. If you mingle with Asian ladies that frequent the clubs for any length of time, you will eventually meet ladies who are unfaithful. This unfaithfulness is how Filipina ladies are branded as whores by American women. This doesn’t carry the same stigma for American women who may do the same. Hypocrisy is always evident when behaviors of the two cultures are compared.

What the American GI has discovered is now catching on with non-military men. Asian dating sites have sprung up all over the internet. Some of these sites try to exploit the Asians’ sexuality. However, there are many Asian ladies who want to meet a sincere gentlemen for a relationship. As attractive as Asian ladies may be, American men are also captivated by the Asians’ behavior towards men. A man’s dream of having a wife who wants to please him, appreciates his love and treasures his efforts in making a home seems to have been found by American men in the Asian culture. You’ll hear American men call these values “traditional values” because at one time these were the values that held the American family together.

The tired argument about these women being a servant to their husband, is one sided. Do these women like serving their husband? Yes, most do. But not as slaves. They are not forced to do so, but have the desire to please their man out of appreciation and love. These ladies are doing what they want to do. I repeat, they WANT to please their man, do things for him and show their appreciation. In turn, these men are happy, want to provide for their wife and have no desire to look elsewhere for this appreciation. It’s chemistry that once prevailed many years ago in the United States and has been lost in the myriad of women rights in American society.

Why do Filipina women want to marry a foreigner from another country? I’m not going to argue the fact that these ladies want a better life. It’s probably true. I will argue that most women, no matter the country, want to marry in to a better life. Again, it is the hypocrisy of who you are that makes a behavior negative or not. Most women, in the United States, need to look in a mirror before judging ladies from other cultures. Besides wanting a better life, most Asian ladies want better treatment. In a Filipina lady’s eyes, men from the West treat women better then men from their country. Is there truth to this? The feed back I get from the ladies at my website is yes or at least they perceive it to be so. I’m sure the social status of your family makes a difference of how you are treated regardless of your gender, but I’m talking about the average Filipina lady. The difference is simple. In her country what she does for her man or husband is expected without appreciation. Here in the United States, most men come to expect a lady isn’t required to serve him, to want to please him, and love him for who he is. When an Asian lady does, his appreciation is certain. For an Asian lady, the man doesn’t have to be super rich or look like a movie star, just treat her well and show his love. It’s a merry-go-round with respect and love as it’s focal point. She wants to please him, he loves her for pleasing him, she loves him for showing he appreciates her love and so on.

All the above words, statements and my observations have their exceptions. There is no doubt, there are bad men in every country. There is no doubt that some women only are in it for the money or to get a free pass to the United States. These are the exceptions and it is this minority that the media and others will use to blanket a whole culture in a negative light. I’m sure most of you have seen in print or on the news about “mail order bride” scandals or “mail order bride” mistreatment as if this defines all courtships and marriages that develop through the internet. If a few instances defines the standards, then just getting a marriage license in the United States should have a warning imprinted in gold. No matter if a couple met through the internet or at the neighborhood church, you have your share of scandals and mistreatment. The last culture of experts that needs to be giving advise about how to meet and marry a women is the United States – is there any other country whose divorce rate is higher?

The Philippines does not condone online dating sites. For that matter, it is against the law. I’m not going to quote their law here, but it has to do with moral issues. Again hypocrisy!. If the Philippines are so worried about women rights, there are other issues they could concentrate on besides taking away a women’s right to find happiness, love and a better life for herself. She wouldn’t be looking elsewhere, if the Philippine government took care of her needs. Should I complain? Probably not, or most Filipina women would not be joining online dating sites to meet American men. My objection to this law is how it is used in the Philippines as a political vehicle rather then sincere concern for women’s rights. Hypocrisy, it is everywhere, isn’t it?
I started this article to comment on why a lot of American women despise Asian women. Not all American women, but a lot. But the discrimination doesn’t stop there. It is evident in the media, politics and indeed in their own country. The people who are forgotten, are the couples themselves. Why not just ask them? If two people who found each other are happy, in love and want to be together, why does the media and politician think they know better. More then likely, it isn’t about what the couple want, but more about politics and sensationalism to sell news. Take your hatred, your narrow minded views and negative publicity elsewhere and let us find love – even if we find it on the internet.

Steve Eyes is the webmaster and owner of FilipinaEyes Association. His experience comes from finding love on the internet and helping others do the same.

Thursday, July 26, 2012

What You Should Know About Filipina Girls!

By Xylene Belita

Interested about Filipina girls? Well, lucky you, you have made the right choice!
Let me tell you more about Filipina ladies... Filipina girls or Filipina women. Well, they are known worldwide for their stunning beauty and sweetness. Many beautiful Filipinas are considered as among the most beautiful women of the world. Beautiful Filipinas have won international awards on beauty contests worldwide.
These pretty Filipinas are not only beautiful Filipina women, but are also really a delight to be around you because of the famous Filipina disposition and personality, which is to be really sweet, cheerful and thoughtful. Can you imagine having a Filipina girl who will love you truly?!
Many Filipinas are looking for pen pals all over the world. So maybe, you want to find your Filipina pen pal? There are many websites out there. You can actually join chatrooms for free at several sites like yahoo, or at FilipinaKisses.com which is also free to join.
The average Filipina is cautious about how she conducts herself, especially Filipina girls coming from the provinces. This is because in the rural areas, everyone knows everything about everyone. So, to avoid being subject of the grape vines, you should be a Filipina girl who is proper in her actions.
What is being a proper Filipina girl? The Filipina, a 'True Filipina' in the Philippines, is really the girl who will take a man seriously, if only he is really willing to visit her family and introduce himself formally to her parents. It is rather inappropriate to court a Filipina girl and formalize the relationship without informing her parents! That is the way it is in the Philippines. It is always expected that the guy must show his face to the Filipina girl's family… or else her family will not approve of you!
Furthermore, Filipina women are expected to be playing hard to get. It is seen as an inappropriate behavior in a courtship dance if the Filipina women will be easy to get. It is also one way by which Filipina women can measure the sincerity of her admirer. Love and romance is a serious business with conservative Filipina women, whether they are from a city like Manila or the provinces.
If you fall in love with a Filipina, then you must rather court her in the conservative courtship way, and it is the way to win the Filipina heart. When you are going out with a Filipina, talking to her, or calling her on the phone. You can also have long distance Filipina dating through online chat, phone calls and emails. Eventually, you will be able to come and visit her someday.
You should be aware that the word 'Pinay' is the local language or Tagalog version of the word “Filipina”. It means a “Filipino woman”. The male version of it is the word “pinoy” which also means a “Filipino man”.
Many western men who marry a Filipina wife, swear they make the best wives in the world. A Filipina wife is not only beautiful, but is also loyal, loving and faithful forever. If you have not found your Filipina lady yet, consider joining Filipino dating sites like FilipinaKisses.com, and hopefully, you will find your Filipina dream girl.
The Filipina heart is sweet, loving, faithful, romantic, loyal and everlasting in their love. If you want to win the Filipina heart of a Filipina girl, you should be patient in your courtship and be really thoughtful and romantic. The Filipina heart will slowly melt to your heart's desire.
Filipinos, as citizens of the Philippines, are not only living in the Philippines but are also found all over the world. “Filipino” is a general term used to call both Filipino men and women, and it is also the national language of the Philippines. The Filipino men are handsome and romantic, and there are some foreign women who have finally figured out that the Filipino men can also be quite a catch.
There are many single Filipino women and Filipino men who are looking for chat, dating, romance, love, serious relationship and marriage. There are many Filipino singles to choose from, and you will surely find a Filipino single that will be right for you. I do recommend FilipinaKisses.com for meeting single Filipino men and women.
Remember, Filipina girls are very sweet, and very caring and loving in their ways. But first, you must win their Filipina hearts... from then on, you will be showered with all her love.

Xylene Belita
Are you still single and searching? Visit http://www.FilipinaKisses.com and meet single Filipino men and women for online chat, friendships, dating, love, romance or more!

Wednesday, July 25, 2012

Filipina Dating: A Wedding in the Philippines

By Marc Madi

Centuries old Wedding traditions and wonderful Philippine customs make Filipina Weddings (Kasalan) some of the most beautiful wondrous celebrations on earth. The Filipino culture's high regard for the sanctity of Marriage has given the Philippine Wedding Ceremony many customs and traditions that will be new to the American Gentlemen
Given the dollar peso exchange rate, if for no other reason it is a wise decision to have your wedding in the Philippines. Wedding Ceremony styles, Wedding Dresses, and receptions can differ widely in style and price, but all factors considered you will receive 10 times for your money what you could afford here in the United States.
In the traditional Filipina Wedding the groom is expected to burden all of the cost as opposed to American traditions were it is the Bride’s family that is responsible for wedding exspences. This has given way slightly to some couples sharing the cost as it has here also in the United States.
A few of the cost that will seem unexpected but are in keeping with Filipino Wedding traditions are
1. Hotel rooms for valued guest that journey from distant islands to attend your Wedding. In my case it was the VIPs such as her eldest brother and her Maid of honor
2. Transportation for all those who are to attend locally. We rented a large “Power Cruiser” (Bus) or what would be a fully customized bus complete with sound system and custom paint.
3. Bride’s Maids dresses and Barongs for the groom’s men are usually available for rent at the Wedding boutiques. Unlike here in the US where many of the Bride's maids will purchase their own dress to keep after the Wedding. Some will not be able to afford the exspence and instead opt to rent them
As customary with Filipinas she will be wearing her wedding ring on the right hand and not the left as here in the United States. For the Filipina, the Bible has stated “the Son sits at the right hand of the Father”. So she will sit on the left and wear her ring on the right. This tradition completely blindsided me as I had already presented my fiancĂ©’ with a beautiful engagement set and placed it on her left ring finger. Just 4 days before the wedding she explained to me I would need to buy her a wedding ring now for her right hand.
Filipino Wedding Ceremonies have some very wonderful traditions different from the typical Wedding Ceremonies here in the United States.
There will be 3 sets of sponsors for the wedding couple, Ninang (male) and Ninong (female). They are usually successful well respected couples choosen by the bride. They will have many task and responsibilities during the actual Wedding ceremony.

Veil Ceremony
The first set of sponsors are responsible for the pinning of the Bride's Veil to the shoulder of the Groom. This is to symbolize the wedding couple's clothes as one.

Cord Ceremony
The second set of sponsors will place the ceremonial wedding cord to "Tie" the Bride and Groom together during the actual Wedding ceremony. This is to symbolize the spiritual bonding of the 2 souls.

Candle Ceremony
Then the last pair of sponsors will light two candles on either side of a unity candle, which the wedding couple getting married light together.

Arrhae or 13 Golden Coin Ceremony
Lastly, the groom presents his bride the “Arrhea” also known as the 13 golden coins. The "Arrhae" has been blessed by the priest for a life of faithfulness and prosperity. The "Arrhae" and the Wedding Rings are usually carried by 2 small children, a boy and a girl during the wedding march. The Wedding Dress Couture or seamstres should also create 2 small matching pillows for the presentation of the Arrhae and Wedding Rings.
Do not worry about the cost of the "Arrhae" too much as I did. These are not actual Gold Coins. Often times token 13 golden coins "Arrhae" are provided almost free by the jewelery shop you buy the Wedding ring from in the Philippines
You will also find some Filipino superstitions associated with Wedding Ceremonies and Newlywed couples. The Bride will not wear her Wedding Dress before the ceremony or it will bring bad luck. Also if a bride wants her husband to agree to her every whim she will step on his foot on the way to the altar. This according to superstition will place him under her spell of“Lihi”.
One of the most distinctive qualities of a Filipina Wedding are the cathedrals. They are HUGE. Some capable of holding as many as 600 or 700 people. Often they are gigantic architectural wonders built of concrete and stone with huge arches and towering steeples some times 100s of years old. You would have trouble finding a comparable structure in the United States.
Wedding Receptions are also very affordable in the Philippines. My Wedding Reception included buffet catering for 75 persons, 2 cases wine, 4 cases soda pop, 3 Delux suites at the resort, banquet hall complete with DJ, a Lechon (whole roast pig) all at a luxury Beach front resort for less the $1000 Us dollars.
When we were finished with all the official toasting of the newly weds (about 3 hours), we simply asked the resort staff to move the whole party pool side where our reception lasted late into the night. Make no mistake about it Nothing can quite compare to Filipina Weddings and Wedding Receptions.

Marc Madi. Social researcher, author and publisher. http://asiangf.net

Tuesday, July 24, 2012

Top Mistakes in Dating Filipinas

By Peter Palma

Since before we met even, we’ve been observing men and women who come from different countries meet, and in many cases get married. We met and are happily married. We’ve seen and heard a lot of stories, and based on it, we’ve come up with a list of top mistakes in dating Filipinas.

Before we get into this list, we want to be clear that when we say we are an online dating site, we mean that we are a site where people can meet to become friends first. We do not believe in premarital or extramarital sex, don’t encourage it, and don’t recommend it. We do believe in commitment, marriage, and family, and when the right person is there, we encourage it.

Some people who have visited other sites with many Filipina members at times get confused and think that online dating must be immoral because we encourage casual sex (we certainly don’t). Maybe other people or other sites have different definitions of online dating. We encourage you to find a site where the owners and other members share your basic assumptions about this.

Dishonesty - We believe that for two people to join to form something greater, that honesty is important, and dishonesty is a dangerous poison. We strongly encourage our members that when they are corresponding or chatting, take the time to make sure what you are saying is true. Even if you are afraid you might disappoint someone else, it’s far better to be honest from the beginning, rather than start a life based on a lie. We believe that honesty is the way to develop trust and love, and that dishonesty interferes with our ability to trust and love one another. If what you are looking for is power, sex, money, or status, I’m sorry but that’s not compatible with the atmosphere we try to nourish here. We encourage those who seek to fulfill the guidance to love one another, and who believe that requires honesty, to take the time to join our site and meet fellow believers.

Obsession With Appearances – We recommend that our members focus more on profile text, and messages, rather than photographs. First of all, this is because as much as we would like to be able to guarantee that a member’s photos are of the member, we can’t guarantee that, and we know for a fact that some members post pictures of other people. But most of our members who have posted photos are posting photos of themselves. Yet we still recommend that our members do not pay the photos much attention. One of the less-appreciated aspects of human relations is that single people might look less attractive because they feel loney; but later in the company of a caring partner, they may blossom through confidence to be more attractive in the eyes of anyone who was paying attention. On this same topic, about once a week, we get an email from one of our gentleman who is inquiring about a lady from our site, and when we look at the lady’s profile, we see a picture that looks like it could be from an advertisement for bikinis, full of curves or cleavage. (We delete the pictures immediately.) We believe that these kinds of pictures are not of ladies who are mature enough to have healthy relations of any kind with anyone. We recommend you avoid them. Unless you are a man who is obsessed with his own appearances, who cares more about his looks than his actions, then you will have a values conflict with a lady who is obsessed with her appearance. It’s important to think about what your values are, and to find people who have compatible values. This is much more important than trying to meet people who remind us of advertising models.

Getting Too Excited About Easy, Outgoing Ladies - It’s natural that we can get excited if we write a note and the recipient responds very quickly. But is that actually a good sign? More likely, if you get a response right away, you’re dealing with a professional scammer who is spending all day at the computer. It’s actually a much better sign if you have to wait a day or two for a response. Likewise, if you find yourself very excited because someone is very outgoing, forward, and not shy, not humble, you might want to take things a bit more slowly. Many of our finest ladies are conservative and/or shy.

They may not want to post photos of themselves, they may not have any experience with meeting men in a context like this, and might be shy and more innocent. This doesn’t mean they are not worth getting to know, however. But it does mean you might need to make more of an effort. Think about it. The ladies who are very upfront, outgoing, aggressive even, might be easy;but do you think they will be faithful, humble, obedient? We recommend that our members should make a special effort to write to especially those members who don’t have pictures and who might have short descriptions. It only takes a few moments to write a short message, and you never know what beautiful gem you might find hidden beneath modesty.

Christian Filipina welcomes you to sign up here: http://christian-filipina.com/ for a free account to host your personal ad here and find Philippine Dating chat mates. We simply help members to meet Single Filipina and to chat about Christian values. We believe that the Christian community of singles who are members here are the loveliest you can find on any Asian dating site.